When two people who understand what they enjoy in bed and have shared this with their partners get together, sex can be one of the most exhilarating and enjoyable experiences known to mankind. If you happen to have just started dating someone new or your partner wants to try experimenting with new things though, things can get a little weird. Maybe your partner has been reading some dirty novels or they start doing something new in bed that you think is a little strange. It isn’t the end of the world and there are a number of things you can do to make things a little less weird.
Trying something new in the bed
If you or your partner want to try out something new in the bedroom, you’d be best off discussing things with your sex partner and seeing how the think about something new. The old adage of “Do it, then apologize”, doesn’t apply here as you could do something particularly damaging to your partner. Often, things that people want to try in the bedroom might be pretty normal in the grand scheme of things and you’ll be amazed at how good some of the ‘strange’ bedroom practices can feel. You and your partner should be able to now when to stop and if possible you should have a method for showing that you don’t want to do anything weird.
Talk about your sex life
People that talk about their sex life and discuss these matters often tend to have better, more fulfilling and more pleasurable sex life than those that don’t. This is because communication like this allows you to figure out what your partner doesn’t and doesn’t like, what they will do to please you and what they will never do, regardless of whether you’d like them to do it. Whilst you might not have tried or even like the sound of bondage, there are many people out there who are perfectly happy incorporating this in to their sex lives and as long as nobody is hurt physically or mentally, it is all in good fun.
If you are really against anything that isn’t normal sex, that is okay as well. This is natural as humans are genuinely wary of change, citing it as a bad thing, however you may find that if you just try things the once, you could find things that you enjoy more than you already do. Don’t feel pressured in to doing anything you don’t want to though, sex and relationships are supposed to be based on trust and love, not fear and intimidation.
If you are a non-traditionalist and like the idea of strange stuff in the bedroom, go along with what your partner wants to do and try it. You could even say to your partner that you’ll let them do what they want to do if you get to do the same to them. Turning sex in to a game can reignite that early relationship spark and make it so you both enjoy jumping in to bed again and ‘weird’ sex can really turn the heat up a notch. Make sure you are ready for these kinds of things and talk to your partner before going ahead with anything.
Improve your sex skills with new positions
When you try a new position, there will be times when they just won’t work. Perhaps your partner isn’t strong enough to hold you up in the air or that you are both too tall and short to make something work. Don’t worry if this is the case, you’ll know when things are not working and you’ll be able to laugh about it in the future. Sex is inherently funny if you think about it that way and you shouldn’t be afraid to experiment to see when things don’t work, because that’s the only way you are going to learn what does work in the end. We don’t like to do things that might be embarrassing or worse, but the payoff is totally worth any short period of embarrassment. Everyone is completely different to one another and something that might have worked for one of your old partner might not work with a different one. Don’t make a big deal out of it and make sure that your partner isn’t upset and you’ll find something that works for the both of you soon enough. If your sex is getting really weird, just stop and talk with your partner about your boundaries and expectations. Some people want to impress their sexual partner’s with their prowess so much that they go away and read stuff to try something new. Often this information is poorly written or explained and makes sex awkward or even painful when performed incorrectly. The best way to keep things normal is to tell your partner what you like and how they should go about doing it. If you are single then subscribe on one of those great casual sex sites and start getting laid tonight !