One night stands are becoming more and more accepted as a thing that you can do socially. Whilst there are still a few people who will look down their noses at you for having one, the repercussions are much lower than they used to be. People are celebrating their sexual power and this means that there are more people than ever hooking up. As you probably already know, we rated earlier this year all the best one night stand sites to use in Canada.
A lot of people think that they might enjoy a one night stand but are too worried about the things that might go wrong to try one out. In this article, I’ll be sharing a little one night stand wisdom with you, which should help you make a decision about whether they are right for you.
First of all, you need to make sure your expectations are set accordingly. What this means is that you can’t expect min blowing, incredible sex from everyone you meet for a one night stand. The person you go home with may be less experienced than you, intoxicated to the level where they don’t function as well sexually and a whole host of other reasons. If you are planning or have the thought that you might end up going back with someone, prepare and make sure that you bring protections. Many people ‘forget’ to have protection and this makes sex with them dangerous, as you don’t know if they are clean or not.
Plan your one night stands
Pre planning can make a one night stand much more enjoyable. If you are going out with your friends and find someone to leave with, make sure you tell all of your friends where you are going and make sure that you’ll be safe.
Should you have casual sex encounters?
One night stands really won’t be for you if you are the type of person who wants to foster a long term relationship and grow together with your partner. Whilst I’m sure there are probably a few relationships that have ended up with the couples happily married from a one night stand, the vs.at majority of one night stands are simply about having a good time for one night and that is it. After, you probably won’t see or meet them again and they won’t call you up.
One thing you can learn from one night stands though, is that you have to experience emotion when you are having sex to really enjoy it. The mechanical part of sex isn’t the part that provides the most arousal and enjoyment. The emotional part of your brain makes everything feel better when you are with someone you love instead of some random person from the street.
You might enjoy the sex you have with your one night stand, but it won’t be as good as if you were in a loving relationship with someone and sometimes this is difficult to imagine. One night stands can offer another perspective on the dating game and it might be worth trying it once to see if you can learn anything something new.
What to do the morning after sex
A lot of people trip up with the etiquette part of one night stands, so make sure you understand. You and your partner both know that this only a one night stand and things will go a little easier in the morning. There will be no confusion this way, meaning you won’t have to sit through and awkward breakfast that your partner might have made for you.
Let your date take a shower
If you are going out specifically to find a one night stand, there is a chance that the person you take home isn’t going to be ‘prepared’ for the evening which can be easily solved by letting them use your shower and so on before you end up between the sheets.
The most important thing to remember is that you don’t need to feel bad. Nothing that you have done is dirty and it is sex is a perfectly natural thing. One night stands should be thought of as a good thing, increasing your confidence and as reinforcement for the idea that you are an attractive and sexual person that people desire. If you have had one night stands before and regretted them, try thinking over what caused that regret and you might notice some beliefs you didn’t realize you had. It is funny that if you meet someone a few more times it is okay to have sex with them, yet if you have sex with them when you first realize the attraction, it is supposed to be a bad or dirty thing. Don’t worry about what other people think and you should be well on your way to having a fun and enjoyable night with your chosen partner.
One last tip
One last tip, make sure you remember their name and where you put your things when you got in. The worst thing you can do is forget their name, then have to come back to get your stuff!